A. Prayers For Those Seeking God’s Will In Marriage
First study Genesis chapter 24 and The Book of Ruth to increase your faith in God that it is His desire and divine pattern to be the One Who will bring you and His choice of a spouse for you together in His perfect time for your union.
Gen.2:18
And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
Ru.3:1
…My daughter, shall I not seek rest for thee, that it may be well with thee?
Gen.24:2-4
And Abraham said unto his eldest servant of his house, that ruled over all that he had, Put, I pray thee, thy hand under my thigh: 3 And I will make thee swear by the LORD, the God of heaven, and the God of the earth, that thou shalt not take a wife unto my son of the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I dwell: 4 But thou shalt go unto my country, and to my kindred, and take a wife unto my son Isaac.
Eccl.4:9-12
Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. 10 For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up. 11 Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone? 12 And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
Isa 34:16
Seek ye out of the book of the LORD, and read: no one of these shall fail, none shall want her mate: for my mouth it hath commanded, and his spirit it hath gathered them.
1Cor.7:2
Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
Read these Words out loud to encourage yourself in the Lord that what you are asking for is God’s will for your life.
Prayer points –
- My Father, I thank You for the wonderful provision You have made for me to have a partner to be a helper for me and for me to assist, in the assignments You have set out for us in life. Blessed be Your Holy Name.
You said through the Prophet Isaiah that none of us shall lack our mate; and this is why I have come before You today to ask You to lead me to that very rib that You took from my side on the day You created me (for men) / that man from whose side You took out a rib and created me (for women), in the Name of the Lord Jesus Christ.
2. Father, I open my heart before You and declare that I have no wish or desire to marry any other but Your divine choice for me. Holy Spirit of the Living God, I ask You to take me over afresh over this crucial matter and lead me only in the Way and the Truth of God to my God-ordained mate and guide my path away from error, in the Name of Jesus.
3. Holy Father, forgive me for all the sins of my past and those sins of my ancestors which may stand in the way of Your choice for me, in the Name of Jesus. (Name those sins – idolatry, polygamy, involvement in slavery, fornication, abortion, disappointing someone you have promised to marry and so on). Please forgive me for all the times I have made my own choices of mates and sinned against You. I cleanse my heart and my whole being in the Blood of Jesus, The One Who is the Truth; and decree a re-alignment of my will with the will of God, in Jesus Name. Father, I ask that You give me a fresh start, in Jesus Name I pray. Amen.
4. I stand on the covenant Blood of Jesus the Son of God and I break and take out of my way, all covenants made with other gods and family idols, by myself or on my behalf, by anybody at all, at any time at all, for any reason at all, whether knowingly or unknowingly, in the great Name of my Lord Jesus Christ. I blot out all the covenant terms with the Blood of the Cross; I take them out of the way and nail them to the Cross, in Jesus Name.
I command all the strongmen in charge of the demonic covenants to be bound and thrown into the abyss, in Jesus Name. Leave me now and never come back, in the Name of Jesus. Amen.
By the Voice of the Blood of Jesus, I silence the voices of all other so-called gods and their altars speaking over my life and marriage, in the Name of Jesus. I renounce all promises made to you all by myself or on my behalf and I wash myself in the Blood of Jesus to take away all your marks and incisions put on me. I renounce all ungodly demonic names and praise names, in the Name of Jesus. I decree and declare that I now belong totally to Jesus my Creator and bear His Name and bear His mark of ownership in my body, in Jesus Name. Lord, release Your powerful Voice to tear off every veil that has been cast over me to hide me from my God-ordained spouse and to hide him/her from me; I ask for the sake of Your great Name, Jesus the Christ. Amen.
5. I stand on the truth that Jesus became a curse for me by hanging on the Cross of Calvary, and I break every curse over marriages existing in my family, in Jesus Name. (Be specific if you have noticed a family pattern of late marriage, barrenness, divorce, early death of spouse and so on). I command all the strongmen in charge of the curse to be bound and thrown into the abyss, in Jesus Name. Leave me now and never come back, in the Name of Jesus. Amen.
6. I set myself free from all ungodly promises and covenants made in past relationships and I break all unGodly soul-ties formed thereby, in the Name of Jesus. I set myself free by the power in the Blood of Jesus to marry only God’s choice for me, in Jesus Name. Father, please give me a Word that will be a confirmation as token and sign for both of us when I meet Your choice for me as You did for Abraham’s Servant in Genesis chapter 24:14,17-19, in Jesus Name. Amen.
B. Prayers For Courtship Period
Gen.2:19-23
And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof. 20 And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him. 21 And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; 22 And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. 23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
Gen.24:26,27
And the man bowed down his head, and worshipped the LORD. 27 And he said, Blessed be the LORD God of my master Abraham, who hath not left destitute my master of his mercy and his truth: I being in the way, the LORD led me to the house of my master’s brethren.
Gen.24:23
And said, Whose daughter art thou? tell me, I pray thee: is there room in thy father’s house for us to lodge in?
Ru.3:2-4
And now is not Boaz of our kindred, with whose maidens thou wast? Behold, he winnoweth barley to night in the threshingfloor. 3 Wash thyself therefore, and anoint thee, and put thy raiment upon thee,…4 …and he will tell thee what thou shalt do.
Prov.18:22
Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.
Matt.1:25
And knew her not till…
1Jn.4:1
Beloved, believe not every spirit, but try the spirits whether they are of God: because many false prophets are gone out into the world.
Prayer points –
- Father, I thank You so much for leading me to Your choice of my mate. Blessed be Your Holy Name. I ask You Holy Spirit for confirmation that this is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh, because I must not make a mistake and choose anyone but God´s choice for my life, in Jesus Name I pray, Amen
2. I thank You, Lord that I have obtained favour of the Father through Your sinless Blood shed for me at Calvary. I bless You for that grace released to me at this time. Holy Spirit, guide us aright through this courtship period so that we will not frustrate the grace of God and displease the Father by falling into sin. We desire and purpose to conduct our courtship the way of heaven, and we reject the way of Egypt, the way of Babylon or the way of Canaan, in Jesus Name, Amen.
3. Every spirit of Egypt, depart from our relationship and courtship, in Jesus Name.
4. Every spirit of Babylon, depart from our relationship and courtship, in Jesus Name.
5. Every spirit of Canaan, depart from our relationship and courtship, in Jesus Name.
6. We silence the speakings of all ancestral gods and idols by the speaking of the Blood of Jesus, and we totally reject their involvement in this relationship and courtship, in Jesus Name
7. We break all past demonic covenants made at any time at all, by anyone at all, for any reason at all, knowingly or unknowingly, by the power in the covenant Blood of my Maker and Master, Jesus Christ. We walk out free of those covenants and agreements, in the Name of Jesus. We forbid them and the strongmen in charge from following us into this new covenant relationship, in Jesus Name.
8. By the atonement work of the Lord Jesus Who became a curse for us by hanging on the tree at Calvary, we break all unbroken curses that may still be operating in our families, in the Name of Jesus. We stand in the pool of that sinless Blood of Jesus and gather all curses together and blot them out by the Blood of the Lamb of God, in Jesus Name. We forbid the speakings of those curses from operating in our relationship, in Jesus Name.
9. We come against all demonic altars, covens and shrines and command them to be rooted out and broken down; and we command the priests, watchers and gatekeepers of the altars to be rendered useless in this relationship, in Jesus Name. We shut and seal the demonic doorways opened into our lives and families by the key of David that shuts and no one can open, in Jesus Name.
10. We command all the strongmen in charge of demonic covenants and curses to fall down and perish after the order of Goliath according to the Word of God in Jer.10:11, in Jesus Name. We cut off your heads and bury you all, permanently, in Jesus Name. We walk into the totality of the freedom purchased for us by the Lord Jesus on the Cross, in Jesus Name.
11. Let room be made for me in the hearts of the family of my fiancé/fiancée, in Jesus Name. Let me receive their favour and let every voice that will be raised against the perfect will of God for our union be silenced now, in Jesus Name.
12. Father, please lead us to the marriage counselor whom You Yourself have prepared to guide us in our courtship. We ask for someone who will counsel us with the mind of God, in Jesus Name. We stand against all ungodly counsel and receive only wise counsel, in Jesus Name.
13. Lord, we ask that You reveal to us the fullness of Your counsel for our wedding day, including the date, the venue and those You have prepared to minister on that day. We also ask You to reveal to us the purpose for our union and give us the enablement to walk perfectly in that purpose all our lives together, in Jesus Mighty Name2.
Amen and Amen.
C. Prayers Before The Traditional Wedding Ceremony
Gen.2:24
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
1Cor. 2:6
Howbeit we speak wisdom among them that are perfect: yet not the wisdom of this world, nor of the princes of this world, that come to nought:
1Cor. 3:19
For the wisdom of this world is foolishness with God…
Mk. 7:8
For laying aside the commandment of God, ye hold the tradition of men, as the washing of pots and cups: and many other such like things ye do.
Col. 2:8
Beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ.
2Cor.6:14-16
Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? 15 And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? 16 And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.
Rev.20:1-3
And I saw an angel come down from heaven, having the key of the bottomless pit and a great chain in his hand. 2 And he laid hold on the dragon, that old serpent, which is the Devil, and Satan, and bound him a thousand years, 3 And cast him into the bottomless pit, and shut him up, and set a seal upon him,
Prayer points –
To be said as you prepare for the day of your traditional wedding…
- Eternal Father, we thank You for bringing us to the time of preparation for our traditional wedding ceremony. We commit all to You, asking that You will guide every step we take so that all we shall do will please You, in Jesus Name.
2. Holy Spirit of God, give us the discerning spirit we need to recognize any tradition that will bring us into the bondage of unholy covenants with family idols again, in Jesus Name. Give us the boldness and wisdom to reject unholy tradition in totality and stand firmly for Christ; and let all that we shall do reveal only Christ to our families and friends, in Jesus Name.
3. Lord Jesus, we present the traditional wedding list to You. Please reveal to us all those that we need to present to our in-laws and all those we must remove even now, in Jesus Name. Let every opposition to our choices give way by the power of Your great Name.
4. Now, we stand on the Blood of Jesus and face you now, all ancestral gods and idols! (Mention their names if the names are known to you). We remind you that we have renounced you all in totality and we belong to Jesus. Therefore, we forbid any of you from being present at the wedding and reject your involvement in any way, in Jesus Name. We cancel with the Blood of Jesus any invitation extended to any of you by anyone at all, at any time at all, in any form at all, knowingly or unknowingly, in Jesus Name.
5. Lord Jesus, we ask that You mark the gates of that day with Your precious Blood and let the Voice of Your Blood rebuke the enemies at the gate. Let the Voice of your Blood answer for us at any demonic altar and shrine where our names may be mentioned, and place a terror of us in the hearts of all satanic family priests or anyone at all who would dare to take our matter to other gods and family idols, we ask for the sake of Your great Name that we carry. Amen.
6. Righteous Father, we ask that only You and the Lord Jesus shall be enthroned at our traditional wedding, and ask that all thrones of iniquity be crushed under the weight of Your Throne of righteousness, in Jesus Name. Holy Spirit of God, we ask that You would brood over all that we shall do on that day so that it will all be to the pleasing of the eternal Father, in Jesus Name.
Prayers of the Groom over the traditional items to be presented by his family to the Bride’s family –
- My Father, I present these gifts to you as the father of my wife-to-be because You are her Father too. Let whatsoever does not please You there be revealed to us, in the Name of Jesus. Lord Jesus, release Your Blood into these gifts and sanctify them. Holy Spirit, anoint them with Your oils and infuse them with Your fire so that if any of these items is taken to any unrighteous altar or shrine, the place will catch fire, in Jesus Name.
Dip your finger in some anointing oil and carefully touch all the items and pray thus –
2. I anoint them in the Name of the Father, and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit. Amen. I decree that they shall only be used for righteousness and never for any rituals that will bring them in contact with other gods, in Jesus Name. If anyone tries to use them for evil, let the rebuke of the Lord fall upon him or her, in Jesus Name.
These prayers are to be done at the venue on the traditional wedding day, before the ceremony starts. Drop anointing oil at the doorway and at the four corners of the room/hall and pray thus –
3. Father of Life, we are here because of You and only You, and therefore we dedicate this venue to You. We plead the Blood of Jesus all over this hall, the grounds and the atmosphere, and cancel all dedications to other gods, in Jesus Name. We command any demonic voices speaking over this venue to be silenced now and all demons and devils present here to go now, in the Name of Jesus.
4. In the mighty Name of the Lord Jesus, we possess all the gates into this place – the land gates, water gates and air gates. We seal off all the gates with the Blood of Jesus and command that no demon or devil, no ancestral gods or anyone who will come to do us harm must enter, in Jesus Name. We ask for Angelic guards to enforce our wish, in Jesus Name.
5. Father, we ask You to release the Angel with the key of the bottomless pit to shut and lock it now so that no familiar spirit will be summoned into this venue, in Jesus Name. Holy Spirit, we ask You to take control of this venue and all the affairs of the ceremony so that Jesus only will be glorified to the pleasing of Father, in Jesus Name.
6. Father of eternity, we ask You to sit enthroned here now and oversee all that we shall do, in Jesus Name.
Amen and Amen.
D. Prayers After The Traditional Wedding Ceremony
- Father, Son, Holy Spirit, we thank You for honouring our invitation to be present at our wedding feast. What a privilege it was to have our heavenly Father there with Your Hosts of Angels! We bless Your Holy Name. We ask You to forgive us for anything that was done by us or anyone else which was not pleasing to You, in Jesus Name.
2. We stand on the Blood of Jesus and cancel any unholy covenants made at the ceremony today, knowingly or unknowingly by anyone at all for any reason at all, in Jesus Name. We decree that those demonic covenants and agreements are now null and void, in Jesus Name. Any wrong pronouncements or wicked thoughts projected at us during the ceremony by anyone at all are hereby wiped away by the Blood of Jesus. Only the counsel of our God shall stand over our lives and marriage, in Jesus Name.
3. Any familiar spirit or any demon that managed to pass through the embargo we placed at the gates, we bind you now with chains and fetters of iron that cannot be broken and command you to be cast into the bottomless pit, in Jesus Name. Father, let your Presence go before us, be with us and be our rear-guard all our lives and never depart from us, in Jesus Name.
Pray over all the gifts, even the cash gifts, you received and anoint them –
4. Father, we thank You for these gifts, for all good things come from You. We present them to You and ask that You sanctify them by the Blood of Jesus. Thank You for those who gave to us and we ask You to reward them, in Jesus Name. We declare the gifts wholly sanctified as we give You our tithes, and ask that any evil motive for giving these gifts and any curse attached to any of them be wiped away now by the Blood of Jesus, in Jesus Name.
5. Father, we present our earthly parents before you, asking that You behold their labour of love over us all our lives to this point; bless and reward them, Lord, in Jesus Name. Honour them, O God, with long life in good health and prosperity, peace and joy; and cause them to see their children’s children’s children, in Jesus Name. We pray for them that they will never cast their young into the grave, nor die of a pining sickness, in Jesus Name. (Pining sickness = long-drawn, painful, wasting illness like cancer etc. See Is.38:12)
E. Prayers Before The Church Wedding
- Father, the day draws near when we shall present ourselves before You and the Assembly of Your Saints to be joined together as Man and Wife in Holy Matrimony! We thank You for how far You have seen us through, for without You, we could not have gone this far. We ask You to mark the gates of our wedding day with the Blood of Jesus and let it be declared as a day You have sanctified to show forth Your glory to the world, in Jesus Name. We ask You, Most High God, to sit enthroned on that day and let all thrones of iniquity be crushed under the weight of Your Throne of righteousness, in Jesus Name.
2. Father, we present to You ourselves, all those who will be in the bridal train and those who will minister in one form or another on that day. Holy Spirit, brood on us and prepare us all for our roles on that day, in Jesus Name. Let none be used by the devil to be a gateway for satanic intrusion in the ceremony, in Jesus Name
3. Father, we present the wedding garments, all our accessories and our rings to You, asking You to infuse them with the Blood of Jesus and break any unholy dedication on them, in Jesus Name.
On the wedding day, send a reliable person, preferably a Pastor, to go and anoint the Church and set it apart for your use on that day, and pray like this –
Father, we ask that You command the Angel with the key of the bottomless pit to lock it now so that no ancestral gods or familiar spirits can be summoned up to take part in the ceremony, in Jesus Name. We bind any demon that may be present at the venue, and command the territorial strongman to fall down and perish, in Jesus Name. We ask for guardian Angels to surround the Church and ministering Angels to be released to assist in the ceremony, in Jesus Name. Let Your presence be felt, O Lord, and let all we shall do be to Your pleasing and glory, in Jesus Name.
F. Prayers After The Church Wedding At The Couple’s Home Before Retiring To Bed
Songs 2:3-17
As the apple tree among the trees of the wood, so is my beloved among the sons. I sat down under his shadow with great delight, and his fruit was sweet to my taste. 4 He brought me to the banqueting house, and his banner over me was love. 5 Stay me with flagons, comfort me with apples: for I am sick of love. 6 His left hand is under my head, and his right hand doth embrace me. 7 I charge you, O ye daughters of Jerusalem, by the roes, and by the hinds of the field, that ye stir not up, nor awake my love, till he please. 8 The voice of my beloved! behold, he cometh leaping upon the mountains, skipping upon the hills. 9 My beloved is like a roe or a young hart: behold, he standeth behind our wall, he looketh forth at the windows, shewing himself through the lattice. 10 My beloved spake, and said unto me, Rise up, my love, my fair one, and come away. 11 For, lo, the winter is past, the rain is over and gone; 12 The flowers appear on the earth; the time of the singing of birds is come, and the voice of the turtle is heard in our land; 13 The fig tree putteth forth her green figs, and the vines with the tender grape give a good smell. Arise, my love, my fair one, and come away. 14 O my dove, that art in the clefts of the rock, in the secret places of the stairs, let me see thy countenance, let me hear thy voice; for sweet is thy voice, and thy countenance is comely. 15 Take us the foxes, the little foxes, that spoil the vines: for our vines have tender grapes. 16 My beloved is mine, and I am his: he feedeth among the lilies. 17 Until the day break, and the shadows flee away, turn, my beloved, and be thou like a roe or a young hart upon the mountains of Bether.
Songs 4:7
Thou art all fair, my love; there is no spot in thee.
Ruth 1:16,17
And Ruth said, Intreat me not to leave thee, or to return from following after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God: 17 Where thou diest, will I die, and there will I be buried:…
Ruth 4:11
…The LORD make the woman that is come into thine house like Rachel and like Leah, which two did build the house of Israel:…
Jer.31:22
How long wilt thou go about, O thou backsliding daughter? for the LORD hath created a new thing in the earth, A woman shall compass a man.
Ps. 128:3
Thy wife shall be as a fruitful vine by the sides of thine house: thy children like olive plants round about thy table.
- Father, it has truly been a day You have made and we have rejoiced and have been so glad all day! We thank You so much! Heavenly Father, I present my wife/husband to You and thank You for her/him. I declare before You that she/he is an altogether lovely and perfect gift from You to me and I find no fault in her/him. We pour all our love for each other at Your Feet and ask You to sanctify it and keep it safe in Your realm where the foxes that spoil marriages cannot touch it, in Jesus Name. Lord, bless our home with Your peace and prosperity, and Godly children, and give us the wisdom and ability to fulfill Your divine destiny for our marriage, in Jesus Name. We dedicate this home to You, Father, Son and Holy Ghost, in Jesus Name. Amen.
2. Husband’s Prayer – Lord, You created my wife (name) from my side to be a helpmeet for me. I cannot thank you enough for the privilege to have one of You special children to help me carry some of my responsibilities in life. I ask you Lord to give me all the love to nourish her into the perfect bride for me and for Christ, in Jesus Name. I ask you to give me the special ability to satisfy all her needs spiritually, physically and socially, in Jesus Name. I ask that you make her my very best friend, my only confidant and my efficient prayer-partner on earth, in Jesus Name. I bless her today with all the blessings of Christ for her and decree over her that it shall yet be said of her that “Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.” In Jesus Name, I pray. Amen. See Proverbs 31:28,29.
Now, turn to face your wife and declare to her the words of King Solomon in Songs 2:10b-14:
….Rise up, my love, my fair one, and come away. 11 For, lo, the winter is past, the rain is over and gone; 12 The flowers appear on the earth; the time of the singing of birds is come, and the voice of the turtle is heard in our land; 13 The fig tree putteth forth her green figs, and the vines with the tender grape give a good smell. Arise, my love, my fair one, and come away. 14 O my dove, that art in the clefts of the rock, in the secret places of the stairs, let me see thy countenance, let me hear thy voice; for sweet is thy voice, and thy countenance is comely.
3. Wife’s Prayer – Father, I thank you for my husband (name), this special man from whom and for whom You created me to help, to nourish, to compass with love and prayers so that he might fulfill his destiny and become a champion in Your Kingdom. I thank You for giving me the privilege of doing something in return for Your great love for me. It is You that calls and also enables, Father, therefore I yield totally to Your Holy Spirit to help me to fulfill Your mandate for me in the life of my husband, in Jesus Name. Cause me to fully submit to him in all things so that his heart will safely trust in me to become his only confidant on earth, in Jesus Name. Cause me to become a fruitful vine at the sides of his house and give us children who will be like olive plants round about his table, in the Name of Jesus, Amen.
Face your husband and say to him the words of Ruth in Ru.1:16b,17 –
… Intreat me not to leave thee, or to return from following after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God: 17 Where thou diest, will I die, and there will I be buried:… and nothing but death shall be able to separate us, in Jesus Name. Amen.
G. Prayers Over Wedding Gifts
This should be done before you open any of them. You need to sprinkle anointing oil on them and pray like this –
Father, we thank You for these gifts, for all good things come from You. You are the Rewarder, and so we ask You to reward all that gave these gifts according to their hearts, in Jesus Name. We present them to You and plead the Blood of Jesus on them and ask for Your consuming fire to fall upon them and destroy any demonic dedication on them, in Jesus Name. We command any gift here which was given with the wrong intentions or which has been sent to curse or bewitch us, to catch fire, in Jesus Name. Let all satanic voices speaking from any gift be silenced by the speakings of the Blood of Jesus which says All things are yours, in Jesus Name. Let every token of witchcraft here present be destroyed by the fire of God, in Jesus Name. We declare these gifts sanctified in the Name of the Father, Son and Holy Spirit. Amen.
Be careful as you open them over the course of time and discard any strange-looking gift, burning with fire preferably.
